Addicted to Worry

addicted to worry

Are you Addicted to Worry?

I was reading a great book last week that spoke about being addicted to worry! I was very interested to hear what the author had to say. I had never really thought of worry as an addiction, but when you break it down it is very likely that some people are addicted to this thought process.

Gay Hendricks discusses this in his book called “The Big Leap”. Actually, he discusses many things and listening to his voice (it was an audible book) was very soothing. But he states that:

“Worrying is usually a sign that we’re Upper-Limiting. It is usually not a sign that we’re thinking
about something useful. The crucial sign that we’re worrying unnecessarily is when we’re
worrying about something we have no control over.
– Gay Hendricks

What is Upper Limiting? If this interest’s you and you feel like you are not reaching your potential, then you may want to read the whole book. Very inspiring. But back to Upper Limiting. The Upper Limit is the level of success we allow ourselves to enjoy in all areas of our lives. But when we exceed this level then we will often self-sabotage or act in a manner that brings us back down to the area we feel secure.

This idea of upper limiting can also be applied to your relationships, but that warrants a whole other blog!!!

Are you addicted to worry?

Worrying about something you have no control over stops you from reaching your potential or exceeding your upper limit. But constant worrying also increases levels of anxiousness and can lead to anxiety. In fact, it can lead to generalised anxiety disorder or GAD. This is when you worry about everyday issues for no apparent reason.

So, what can you do to stop worrying excessively? First you must decide if it is a solvable problem or not.

Sometimes we need to worry because we need to change or fix something. This is usually an immediate action, or a solvable one. That is, you can take an action to relieve the worry and fix the issue.

If it is a situation that you have no control over or is unsolvable then the worry is not productive, and you need to let it go. I know that may be easier said than done, but what’s harder is trying to control the uncontrollable.

If it is not controllable then acknowledge the worry, you can’t just try and ignore it as it may keep coming back to you. Being able to acknowledge the fact that you are worrying is sometimes enough to change your thought patterns. You could try the following which was suggested by Gay Hendricks.

Acknowledge your worrying thoughts and say “thank you I hear your concern” and send them on their way. It is a bit like a health ad on TV where the female skier is at the top of the mountain, and she is contemplating taking the big plunge and her consciousness is telling her to stop as she runs through the likely outcomes with the last being she could lose a kidney. She was listening but then when it gets ridiculous, she replies that’s a bit over the top and takes off down the mountain. That is, she was able to put it into perspective and decide to move ahead. Unfortunately, it is not always so obvious, but the idea is the same.

We all worry at some point or another, we need it to keep us safe. But asking yourself whether you can control or change the outcome is an important first step to understanding your worry patterns.

I use this question often; I ask myself is it something that I have control over or not? If not, I don’t let it take over my mind because I cannot control the outcome. This is the beauty of this question because your thoughts are something that you can take control of. If you are unable to do this then maybe it’s time to seek some professional help. Because excessive worry can be an addiction and with any addiction it is possible to break the habit.

If there is a pattern of anxiety and over worrying in the family then it could be genetics. The methylation cycle is heavily involved in mood disorders with particular markers for depression, bipolar and anxiety.  When corrected these SNP’s can make a difference to mood disorders including excessive worrying.

Correcting methylation susceptibility can have a significant impact on your mental health and your ability to control your thoughts. Again this can come back to food is mood and there are some specific nutrients that can be involved in this process. You can read about folic acid in a previous blog here.

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